- My Forums
- Tiger Rant
- LSU Recruiting
- SEC Rant
- Saints Talk
- Pelicans Talk
- More Sports Board
- Fantasy Sports
- Golf Board
- Soccer Board
- O-T Lounge
- Tech Board
- Home/Garden Board
- Outdoor Board
- Health/Fitness Board
- Movie/TV Board
- Book Board
- Music Board
- Political Talk
- Money Talk
- Fark Board
- Gaming Board
- Travel Board
- Food/Drink Board
- Ticket Exchange
- TD Help Board
Customize My Forums- View All Forums
- Show Left Links
- Topic Sort Options
- Trending Topics
- Recent Topics
- Active Topics
Started By
Message
re: Dating as a 40 Year Old Man, How Realistic is it?
Posted on 4/15/24 at 1:31 pm to TheMountaineer
Posted on 4/15/24 at 1:31 pm to TheMountaineer
Not sure why a man would get hitched up later in life unless its to a much younger woman. And even that is a hard sell.
Women are miserable as they age both in looks and mentality. I just cant see locking down with one that is entering the worst stage of their life but yet I see my 40's buddies and their buddies doing it all the time. I think is a sad attempt at getting part of their life back that has since left them.
Women are miserable as they age both in looks and mentality. I just cant see locking down with one that is entering the worst stage of their life but yet I see my 40's buddies and their buddies doing it all the time. I think is a sad attempt at getting part of their life back that has since left them.
1
Posted on 4/15/24 at 1:32 pm to saintsfan1977
quote:
I went on dates with meth heads to Bible thumpers, and everything in between. Dated a few decent girls for a couple months but none were worth staying with. I found my legitimate person. It's scary how alike we are and have telepathy with each other and can be states away from each other.
Jump in the pool bruh.
And there's a theory (from one of the Matchmaker Netflix shows) that says, "Date 'em till you hate 'em!" I wouldn't take it quite that far, if you feel fairly indifferent to them after date 1 or just don't feel attracted after date 1, have another date or 2 to actually get to know them more and give them a chance. You'd probably like the same judgment for yourself. I know quite a few people that ended up married and happy to someone they didn't like much in the beginning or just felt indifferent about in the beginning. Don't write someone off immediately just because you don't think they are hot or you're a little bored. They may feel the same.
Posted on 4/15/24 at 2:26 pm to TheMountaineer
1 & 2 are the winners.
That's assuming you're looking for a relationship and not a FWB.
That's assuming you're looking for a relationship and not a FWB.
Posted on 4/15/24 at 2:59 pm to Turnblad85
Men aren’t any better. Aside from losing looks, they get to take a little blue pill to keep going.
Posted on 4/15/24 at 3:43 pm to keakar
quote:
no problem if you have a large penis or large bank account
Naw it’s all bank account. Women don’t care about the size if you’re rich. If you got money you can be a total dipshit that looks like he’s got something wrong with him appearance wise.
Posted on 4/15/24 at 3:47 pm to turnpiketiger
quote:
Not fat and I stand firm in believing cross fit is the highest level of douchebaggery that one can associate themselves with.
What do you hate about it so much? The running, olympic lifting, pullups, push-ups, burpees? Or have you never tried it and just hate the word "cross-fit" because you've been told that its lame. Do you also hate the way athletes/military workout?
Posted on 4/15/24 at 3:50 pm to TheMountaineer
I found myself back in the dating pool at 42 and killed it. When you have a stable career, good income, and are reasonably fit, they try to lock you down with a quickness. I had to sift through some trash before finding Mrs. Tantal, but I also met some very nice women along the way too. Hit the gym and have your finances in order and you'll do fine.
Posted on 4/15/24 at 3:51 pm to Das Jackal
I turn 50 next month. I have dedicated myself to getting up at 5 am and going to the gym. I stay fit as I can.
After my divorce, I dated from age 24 to 54. I put my heart into a few relationships and got my arse handed to me by a couple of narcissists and attention whores.
So, I literally wrote down a list of what I wanted from a woman. I put in every detail......low body count, shitty or boring exes, shy & doesnt seek attention, smart but hasn't hit a good career yet, good cook, sexually hungry, likes to read....all of the things.
I wrote that list and that woman walked into my life. She is 33 and acts my age. She is mature, fun, can cook......and she now goes to the gym with me for every workout!
We are engaged now and I can't imaging another woman filling that list like she has.
Manifest that shite bro!!! And if you aren't buff. Change that. Get in the gym. Getting up at 5 sucks sometimes. But, you will live longer and you will be happier. Good luck!!
After my divorce, I dated from age 24 to 54. I put my heart into a few relationships and got my arse handed to me by a couple of narcissists and attention whores.
So, I literally wrote down a list of what I wanted from a woman. I put in every detail......low body count, shitty or boring exes, shy & doesnt seek attention, smart but hasn't hit a good career yet, good cook, sexually hungry, likes to read....all of the things.
I wrote that list and that woman walked into my life. She is 33 and acts my age. She is mature, fun, can cook......and she now goes to the gym with me for every workout!
We are engaged now and I can't imaging another woman filling that list like she has.
Manifest that shite bro!!! And if you aren't buff. Change that. Get in the gym. Getting up at 5 sucks sometimes. But, you will live longer and you will be happier. Good luck!!
Posted on 4/15/24 at 3:58 pm to TheMountaineer
It's a fricking nightmare. Most women our age are looking for your bank account to raise their three kids from three different dads. 95% of these creatures are covered in tattoos, piercings, and have a rap sheet. I've all but given up because it really is a waste of time looking for a normal woman.
Posted on 4/15/24 at 4:04 pm to Horsemeat
quote:
95% of these creatures are covered in tattoos, piercings, and have a rap sheet.
I think you're being a little dramatic. Sure, there are some of those out there, but it's not 95%.
Posted on 4/15/24 at 4:05 pm to Horsemeat
quote:
It's a fricking nightmare. Most women our age are looking for your bank account to raise their three kids from three different dads. 95% of these creatures are covered in tattoos, piercings, and have a rap sheet. I've all but given up because it really is a waste of time looking for a normal woman.
A little over dramatic, but not completely wrong
Posted on 4/15/24 at 4:06 pm to BK Lounge
quote:
Not doubting the veracity of ur post.. but is this true, and happening as often as people think ? Or is it just one of those conventional wisdom things where everyone’s always thought it’s true, but it’s less common than people think (?)
It’s true but not just doctors it’s most any respected male. Women fricking hate other women getting something so they want it just so another woman can’t have it. Guess what most healthcare facilities are mostly staffed by?
Posted on 4/15/24 at 4:23 pm to Dixie2023
quote:
Men aren’t any better. Aside from losing looks, they get to take a little blue pill to keep going.
Im fortunate that i dont *need* the little blue pills, at least not yet- but i have tried them, as kind of a turbo boost enhancer, and they are fun… and one day when i might need them to perform, ill gladly take them over menopause and all it’s associated issues… End of the day, im infinitely grateful to be an aging male as opposed to an aging female .
Posted on 4/15/24 at 4:24 pm to TheMountaineer
Plenty of good women. they're all crazy no doubt but some are just sane enough. I'm mid 40s and have found plenty of solid women on match.com, pof, and hinge. never tried facebook or bumble but suspect those are better options. insecurity is by far the most prevalent "flaw" in women.
I'm objectively average
I'm objectively average
Posted on 4/15/24 at 4:33 pm to TheMountaineer
quote:
With all that said, is it really possible for me as a 40 year old man (or any man in their 40s) to meet a decent looking kind woman anymore or am I pretty much done for?
Probably not likely when you are full of excuses and loser mentality. Women are not attracted to excuse makers or men not willing to go after what they want.
Your situation reminds me of the LSU baseball team. Full of potential but finds reasons to not get it done. If you were hoping for compassion with your situation maybe you need tough instead.
Hitters hit, Shooters shoot, Winners are bold. Be bold out there and you will find your lady.
Posted on 4/15/24 at 4:37 pm to TheMountaineer
Not sure your situation (kids?) but I was like you a few years ago. Early 40s now myself; never married and no kids. Dating scene became tough for sure. One thing I will say that has helped me is find a couple guy friends that are active and social in the community. Even though you may not think bars are the best spot to get girls, getting out with a group of guys helps. I got connected to a friend of a friend and started having drinks with them here and there. Now they include me a bunch when they go places. They go to stuff around town like live music etc. You just end up meeting more people that way. And I'm seeing someone now that is working out very well.
And especially if you have your stuff together you can honestly be in a prime time of your life actually.
And especially if you have your stuff together you can honestly be in a prime time of your life actually.
Posted on 4/15/24 at 5:04 pm to TheMountaineer
No! Don’t take the bait with online dating. Get a hobby, fishing/hunting. After work, spend all your free time in your hobby! You’ll be better off!
Posted on 4/15/24 at 5:07 pm to TheMountaineer
quote:
With all that said, is it really possible for me as a 40 year old man (or any man in their 40s) to meet a decent looking kind woman anymore or am I pretty much done for?
Yes, it's easy, unless you're fat.
Posted on 4/15/24 at 5:12 pm to NATidefan
quote:Spanish: “Hazme un sándwich, mujer de carbón!”
Learn to talk to women.
German: “Mach mir ein Sandwich, Char-Frau!”
French: “Fais-moi un sandwich, femme char!”
Italian: “Fammi un panino, donna char!”
Good luck.
Posted on 4/15/24 at 5:13 pm to TheMountaineer
Do more of what you enjoy. (Unless you enjoy watching Netflix at home alone, then find a hobby you've always wanted to try). Get involved with THOSE groups to stack the odds of meeting someone with at least one shared interest. Even if you just see someone interesting in the freshwater lures isle at Bass Pro Shop, come up with a non cheesy opening line.
At 40 you will probably have to alter your expectations a bit as to what your ideal woman might look like. If I met someone 40 no ex-spouse and no kids, I would probably see that as a red flag, if I'm being honest. On the upside, the older you get the chances of having to deal with pain in the arse in-laws go down
I haven't dated since 1991, but don't envy you.
At 40 you will probably have to alter your expectations a bit as to what your ideal woman might look like. If I met someone 40 no ex-spouse and no kids, I would probably see that as a red flag, if I'm being honest. On the upside, the older you get the chances of having to deal with pain in the arse in-laws go down
I haven't dated since 1991, but don't envy you.
Page 8 of 14
Popular
Back to top
Follow TigerDroppings for LSU Football News