re: What are women actually attracted to?

It’s a fine line between gracefully letting the past go and learning the lesson so it doesn’t happen again. There was a poster on here who shall remain nameless who I was having long conversations about true geniune life crushing narcissistic abuse. You never ever want to be there. But it’s impossible not to carry that forward. You need like 3-4 years to decompress and let it work its way out of your system. And then if a later partner triggers that same place in your primitive brain, you are right back in the shite. It’s very hard not to react if someone hits that specific fight or flight response. PTSD is a real thing. And some people always have one foot in the scary past and another in the fearful future. Not good for relationships .