re: How do y'all marry people and hate their parents?

I loathe my MIL and FIL before he died. My wife "hated" them too, but has been put on a massive guilt trip by her siblings to be the one to take care of them.

Her mom is a disgusting blob and her dad was a verbally abusive a-hole. He never took care of himself and died from cancer about 3 years ago. He was 68, I think.

My wife's family guilted her into being his hospice for the last 2 years of his life. He talked and treated her like shite, but she wouldn't allow me to step in. I didn't want her around that. The worst part is that when we get into any argument, she tells me I'm worse than her dad ever was. It's been her go to argument ender.

She has a lot of demons from her past. I've tried to get her to go to therapy. She went twice, but apparently the therapist told her what I had been telling her. I was looking out for hers and our family's best interest and she needs to distance herself from her toxic family.

If I didn't love her so much, I would have been gone a long time ago