re: Why do people always blame the victim when things happen?

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One of the SILs admitted what she did and ratted out the other one. The one who married my wife’s twin brother is admitting that she was in the car but denying that she was a part of this. She says she didn’t know the cat was in the car and that it was all the other SIL’s doing, which is a bullshite lie because that cat meowed loudly constantly anytime she was in a car.

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First of all, call the police and see where that goes.

Secondly, I think you're not considering a potential option: you could continue to go to your wife's family functions and use those as an opportunity to be an absolute count to her family. Every single frustration you have, let it out on them.