re: Does Money Truly Bring Out the Worst in People?

We have a little money. And I think it has allowed my wife and I to do things and have great experiences that we otherwise wouldn't have. So, money doesn't bring out the worst in people.

Greed is what brings out the bad. In-laws that don't have much feel entitled to ask for stuff. For instance an expectation that i should pay for dinner, get togethers, etc. Always making passive-aggressive comments like "man, it must be nice to be able to afford a new boat". And then bitch because I don't invite them fishing.

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Money doesn’t bring out the worst in people, it reveals what they truly are.

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Everyone has a price. Everyone's price is different.
What would you do for money if your child was starving to death?

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For example, I’ve heard stories where, when the last living parent dies, instead of comforting each other, the children of the deceased fight over the parent’s material possessions and what inheritance was left behind.

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"where there is a will there is a family......"

Inheritance is a pretty bad point in someone's life to judge their character...its a period fraught with opportunities to show one's arse. First and foremost, at best, emotions are raw. Toss in some money and old grievances and its the perfect storm for humans to act their worse.

It is almost universal, even when there is no inheritance involved.

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We have a little money. And I think it has allowed my wife and I to do things and have great experiences that we otherwise wouldn't have. So, money doesn't bring out the worst in people.

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I don't think there is a connection between you and wife being able to do things and have great experiences and y'all being, or not being, assholes. Imelda Marcos and her old man had ample opportunity to go places most people never have a chance to see and do things most people would never be able to afford....she was an a-hole of highest kind.


As far as family members being passively aggressive in the manner you describe I have experienced it and I simply ignore it and make a point to interact as little as possible with the people who will do it. Life is too short. If I want someone to go fishing with me I will ask them to go, if I get the feeling they feel like they are entitled to go I probably ain't going to ask.

I have a good friend who inherited a sizeable family fortune. Not stupid money but enough for him and his kids to be comfortable without working....and probably a couple more generations. They haven't changed a bit. They were about as good a people as you would ever want to meet and they still are. They have lost friends and family members who did exactly what you said you had experienced.....either suggesting they ought to share the wealth or outright saying so. They were our kids god parents before they inherited their money....we have since changed because their youngest daughter told our son that if they did adopt him he wouldn't get a penny LOL. She was about 12 at the time and had probably heard them talking about it. She was just a kid...and kids say the damndest thing....but we did tell them that we were going to ask my sister, who had been clean and sober for 10 years, to do it because we felt it was better for them to be with family. I have ALWAYS been very careful about not letting them get the idea that we were interested in anything other than their friendship....because that is ALL we want or need from them....but they have lost friends and family over it and it is a shame.

I am in the process of trying to buy an adjacent property to one we won from the heirs. Those people are out of their minds LOL. The executor has a realistic idea of what the property is worth, the other 4 have insane ideas about its value. We mean to be fair but we also mean to not overpay....as much as possible since we have more interest in keeping someone else from buying than most buyers would have. It is interesting....thankfully the executor seems pretty sane, has final say and is the type of person who will handle the others if they get out of line with her....

When somebody dies and it's time to distribute the dead person's money, that's when people are most likely of all to show their true colors.

Money just makes you more of what you are.