OT parents- How old was your oldest child before you left them home alone overnight?

Is the 18 year old likely to have friends over? Any chance they’d drink?

I’m with you for the most part, but “my brother invited his friends over and one of them abused me” is a thing. I’d be cautious about the 11 year old girl being there if he’s bringing people over.

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The wife is overreacting, isn’t she?

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Yes.

My daughter is 10 and we leave her at the house if we need to go to the store if she doesn't want to come with.

We've never left her over night but I'd be 100% okay in her ability to manage. Not sure I'd do the same with the boys, they aren't/won't be as mature when they get that age. (10)

I'd say probably 13/14 minimum if they have a good head on their shoulders. 16 should be solid for anyone.

This has to be a troll. If your adult son is not responsible enough to "babysit" his 15 year old brother and 11 year old sister then you have failed them as a parent.

My 14 year old stays home alone overnight

Your wife is a helicopter parent

I have an 18 year old son who will never be left alone at night in my house no matter what age. That has more to do with the type of kid he is, I love the kid to death and wouldn't take a million dollars for him but i wouldn't give you a dollar for another just like him.

He is the kid that would throw parties, have a orgy in my bed or burn the place down but look surprised when i got pissed about it.

My youngest son is a completely different person, he is 14 and i could trust him to stay by himself now although i haven't left him home alone overnight.

My brother and I were teenagers and left at home for as long as a week. My brother's friend stayed with us. He was the same age. We were on a farm in a remote area. There was nothing bad to get into.

We didn't until after freshman year in college, but we had a fairly large age gap, oldest to youngest.

Also, I threw some raging parties at my parents' house when my sister was "watching" me.

No. Listen to your wife. She is right.

Would depend on the kids, but I'd have no problem leaving my two oldest home alone overnight. Our youngest is too young to be left home alone overnight even with those two.

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We have an 18 year old high schooler

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wife is pushing back

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The wife is overreacting

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Man, if your 18-year-old is not responsible to keep himself and two siblings alive for one night without your supervision, you and your wife have failed as parents.

Sorry to be so blunt, but YOU came here seeking opinions. That is my opinion. Hell, your 15-year-old should be able to handle one night without you at home and no other adult around.

18? Untrustworthy or unreliable with his two siblings? That's a parent failure.