re: Why do people always blame the victim when things happen?

Your wife needs to report these two sociopaths to the authorities for animal abuse.

You need to keep her away from her family. Dysfunctional doesn’t begin to describe it. As she begins to experience healthy family dynamics, she will be able to see more clearly who’s at fault here. Therapy will help.

The BIL needs to divorce the cat-killing woman before they have children, otherwise he can expect a Kristi Noem episode waiting for him down the line.