re: Is money really the #1 problem in marriages ?

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Is money really the #1 problem in marriages ?

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By far. Not even a close 2nd IMO.

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Do women always want a richer guy?

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Some do, but this isn't necessarily the reason for fighting

The following are reasons IMO:

* One is a spender, one is a saver.
* Insecurity on the male's part because he views his salary as a scoreboard of sorts and takes it out on the female.
* Female has unrealistic expectations and ignores money constraints.
* Different socioeconomic classes and backgrounds

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And I think you marry a girl in your socioeconomic class, not one above.

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I agree. Slightly above isn't bad, but be prepared to spend a shitton more. She's used to being pampered and spending and views her upbringing as the "floor" for quality of life and spending.

Here is the deal. If a chick is that concerned with how much you make then she wouldn't marry you in the first place. My wife's friend complains all the time because she can't a good guy to settle down with. She is a pediatrician in NYC and is cute. The problem is that the one and only thing she is concerned with is how much the guy makes. This girl literally goes on 2-3 different dates a week. I told my wife that she will never get married because she is a selfish person and only cares about money.

Now, if you are actually married then I agree with Pilot. The number problem is communication.

ETA: The best woman to marry is someone that comes from a middle class hard working family that is smart and has a ton of potential.

That and triflin bitches, yeah

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The best woman to marry is someone that comes from a middle class hard working family that is smart and has a ton of potential

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Very, very true.

It's a misused phenomenon. Money is the tool with which you build a family home. When you and your spouse are on the same page regarding finances, you will have your home in order. When folks say money was the problem, it's a farce. Lack of honesty and communication about money was the problem.

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The best woman to marry is someone that comes from a middle class hard working family that is smart and has a ton of potential.

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nice rack with that wouldnt hurt.

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Is money really the #1 problem in marriages ?

No, it's the lack of money that's the #1 problem....

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Yep...arguing about what is spent on is #1 in my book.