I understand your point to provide some coaching to your friend on reasonable and practical steps to take but I don’t think he was looking for that. You may not agree with his lifestyle choices but tough to change those at this point. He trusts and respects you enough to ask which says a lot. If you have it and can do it then don’t expect to be paid back just consider it a gift. If he pays you back great but money isn’t worth losing a friendship over.

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Posted by jchamil

Member since Nov 2009

16548 posts

Posted on 5/26/23 at 8:49 am to TigerCliff

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You may not agree with his lifestyle choices but tough to change those at this point

How is that OP’s problem? If I don’t agree with someone’s lifestyle choices, I’m not going to finance their lifestyle

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Posted by shel311

McKinney, Texas

Member since Aug 2004

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Posted on 5/26/23 at 11:05 am to TigerCliff

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If he pays you back great but money isn’t worth losing a friendship over.

Agreed that money isn't worth losing a friendship over, but in this scenario, it's not the OP that would be choosing to lose the friend so it really shouldn't apply to him.

That line should apply to the friend asking for money. If OP says no, money isn't worth losing a friendship over should be the line for the friend, not OP.

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Posted by Supermoto Tiger

Baton Rouge

Member since Dec 2010

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Posted on 5/28/23 at 3:44 pm to TigerCliff

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He trusts and respects you enough to ask which says a lot. If you have it and can do it then don’t expect to be paid back just consider it a gift.

Exactly..."I'm going to help this time, but also I want to help you put a plan together to pull you out of this situation. "

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