WWYD- teenager, new driver, and speeding ticket

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Teenage driver, had DL for one month and was pulled over for speeding 85 in a 55.

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Just like his mom

Teen needs to pay ticket for sure

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Teenage driver, had DL for one month and was pulled over for speeding 85 in a 55

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This is what my parents did when I made a bad decision driving: made me pay for my own car insurance. I was still on their policy, but I had to pay the difference for me to be on the policy.

I’m not a fan of just restrictions, as in I think doing actual work whether it be chores, a job, volunteer, etc. Making the punishment staying busy doing something they don’t want to do.

But, why was he speeding? Just wanted to go fast? Showing off? Etc?

I went 132 in HS. Not proud of it, it was over a 3 mile bridge when I got off at like 11pm at night from my job so relatively safe…but…not abnormal for a teenager to do.

I'd make him pay the fine with his money that he earned not from money given to him.

I'd also beat his arse.

If possible take him to a place that deals with Traumatic Brain Injuries so he can see what could happen as a result of crashing at high speeds.

The problem is kids that age think nothing can/will happen to them.

pay it

I got a ticket about a month after I got my first car when I was 16.

My parents told me that I knew better than that. That they had paid for me to have a car. They were going to have pay the ticket until I paid them back in the summer and maybe would have to pay increased insurance.
Total guilt trip but I felt really bad.

I actually have never gotten another speeding ticket and I'm 45.

frick his mom

I think I would do:
• Grounded (as in, not only no car, but no one is taking him anywhere) until court date except for whatever work he might be doing (if he’s able to pay a ticket, sounds like he may be working?)
• Can’t use the car for any purpose besides work until he pays off the ticket (or if he can walk to work, get rides, etc., no car use at all until ticket paid)
• If insurance rates go up due to this, he has to cover the difference as a condition of continued driving

Still a strong message sent, but it’s all directly tailored to what he actually did wrong, he has to work to earn his driving privileges back so he can directly see how much that sucks and it treats him more like an adult (which I know he isn’t yet, but he’ll buy into the lesson you’re trying to teach him better).

I have raised 5 young men to adulthood. I have seen it all, done it all and made all the mistakes. First thing is, they are all(most anyway) gonna try it. Some get caught, yours did. Certainly some punishment is deserved, even severe punishment. About the only thing I would say is, make it hurt, just not for a long drawn out time. Spank em, turn ‘em loose.