re: Friends son just passed away in a car accident

This exact thing happened to me four years ago except my 22 year old son died instantly. So I speak from experience when I say just being there is the first thing to do. They will remember that you showed up in their time of greatest need. Truly, nothing has to be said but words do matter. If you can say anything about the son, by all means, do it. At least from my experience talking about my son helped. I don’t even mind talking about details of the wreck. Just anything that tells them you’re thinking about the son that died. I’ve heard the “I know how you feel” and that’s probably not the best thing to say. Be there. Listen. Talk. Share pictures. Cook or bring food. Mow their grass. Clean their car for the funeral. Literally do these things. They won’t forget it and you won’t regret it. And remember, talk about the son. Remembering him because of his life is better than ignoring him because of his death. I wasn’t trying to make this about me I was just speaking from experience. God bless this family and their friends.