re: Friends son just passed away in a car accident

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Our whole neighborhood is rallying around and doing the meal train and that kind of stuff but I want to help him somehow. Any suggestions on what I could do other than be there for him?

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I had a friend in the same situation, it's very sad and any parent's greatest fear. The best advise I got was to be available to the family, now and in the future. Unfortunately, in the coming months and years, their son won't be the topic of conversation for everyone not directly affected. The talks about who he was and how he's remembered will fade. As the time passes, just let the family know you are always open to talking about him and his memory. As crazy as it sounds, the family will begin to think no one wants to hear them talking about him all the time.

tldr: Just make it clear that you are always open and always want to hear all the stories, memories and thoughts they are willing to tell about him. Just listen as much as possible.