re: My Mom has been getting worse with her dementia

My dad just got worse. His dementia had his memory at about 2 mins, had more caused afib, and his kidneys have to many stones to work right, and may be shutting down. Can't do surgery due to if the sedate he won't make it out. Looks like we are about to hit the end game.

Today really sucks

I might need to do a spin-off , but my SD moved in with me last year. I thought that damentia, was forgetting my name. I have learned that is Alzheimer’s. Dementia is older people becoming argumentative, pricks, and socks. Am I wrong? Living and trying to cope now and for a year as we speak.

My grandmas Alzheimer’s rapidly declined not long after my grandpa passed. She was leaving the house in the middle of the night to walk down the street to the beauty parlor she frequented all her life. She was calling everyday for my mom to come get an invisible baby she’d always complain about. I sat with her a few times and she would be in and out my room in the middle of the night asking me questions.

My mom’s started with simple forgetfulness in 2009. We would even have a good laugh about it when I would come over on Sundays and cook her breakfast. But it became obvious over the next several months it was more than that. My sisters refused to believe it but they didn’t see her as often as I did.

It slowly escalated into calling me at all hours at home and work. Then calling the police and fire department at 2:00am. That’s how Social Services got involved. On a Thursday night I got a call at 10:30pm from a Social Services officer that I needed to come immediately…that’s when the true nightmare began.

As I said earlier…get financial and medical Power of Attorney. You are going to be needing it. Good luck and I’m sorry for what you’re about to endure.

A cruel and devastating illness. I pray for all of you that are going through it or have went through it.

appreciate it - i was not in a good place last night, and my typing showed it LOL

My grandpa is in the last stages of this terrible disease and it is terrible. My grandmother is at the point where she can't take care of him on her own anymore. He wakes up in the middle of the night and wonders around the house. One night he took the ice maker tray out of the freezer and tossed it on my grandma while she was sleeping. Some nights he will just stand in the living room staring off into space.

He is the same way. My mom and her siblings have to give him showers. He has to wear diapers and was going days without changing them. What makes it worse is he is very combative. (even before he was an abrasive person)

My dad was trying to help him in the bathroom the other night and he slammed the door on him smashing his foot in the door repeatedly. I went to my parent's house the other day after work and my mom was already sleeping from being up with him the night before. Both of my parents are still working so it has been really tough.

No nursing home wants him due to his combativeness. I do help when I can as we all live in close proximity to each other. My mom set up ring cameras in their house so that they can keep an eye on him at all times, but don't have to be there 24/7.

The other night he slid out of his recliner and was stuck on the floor. We were able to see it all happen with the cameras. My parents were at my house at the time so I told my mom I would go help him get up. Later that night he was awake sitting in the same chair, drops the tv remote and he gets on the floor on all fours to get it and gets right back up with no issues. It isn't that he can't get up on his own, but he forgets that he can. He calls my poor grandmother names, accuses her of sleeping with the neighbor, fat bitch, etc. It is terrible and do feel for you.

Double post

I think my dad has just decided it is almost time. at the VA, when discussing his kidneys, he told the doctor that he has had a good life, outlivd his own father (who died of kidney related issues), and thanked him for the care that he has provided, and he was good with whatever was to come.

for us there is no surgery or treatment we can do for him outside medications, which the VA took him off some because it just isn't really going to do any good anymore.

it is a hard pill to swallow - my dad has always been my hero. I joined the Navy because he had enlisted as a kid, and I wanted to do him proud.

Jim , Pisco and others - I truly understand where you are all coming from, not hollow words or sentiments, but literally I do - and you have all the positive vibes I can spare your ways.

Sitting here watching my mom sleep. Hospice told us she has a few days at most. I feel so lonesome.