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re: Observations on 50 years of married life (long)

Posted on 4/4/24 at 12:33 am to
Posted by oldtimefootball
Winnfield La
Member since Feb 2013
435 posts
Posted on 4/4/24 at 12:33 am to
Married 63+ years. My wife is the sweetest, most kind-hearted person I know. We are together 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. I need her; she needs me because we are both getting old and have medical problems. I love her and she loves me and God loves both of us.
Posted by scrooster
Resident Ethicist
Member since Jul 2012
37853 posts
Posted on 4/4/24 at 12:43 am to
Well done. I've been thinking about doing one of these lately .... except my advice, after two marriages of roughly 25 years each, will be from a different perspective.

My advice will also be about dealing with a bunch of different women ... I've sure had my share .... women are chaos, God Bless'em. Daughters are .... chaos too, but in a different way. Wives ... choose carefully and then get ready to put in the work.

Anyways, I'll stop there, this is your old man advice thread.



Time goes by fast .... and life is simple, it just ain't easy.
Posted by rickyh
Positiger Nation
Member since Dec 2003
12472 posts
Posted on 4/4/24 at 1:07 am to
My wife and I will celebrate out 49th in May. We were young and didn't sit down and plan anything. We were fine. We lived within our means and enjoyed love and life. We raise 4 kids and we are very happy with the way they turned out. My wife was a stay at home wife. She never had a job, but being a wife and a mother is a job in itself. Be kind and don't say things that hurt. My biggest regret is drinking too much on occasions and saying things that I wished I hadn't. Remember your vows are not just to your spouse but to God. Put God first and everything else will work out.
Posted by vodkacop
Louisiana
Member since Nov 2008
7868 posts
Posted on 4/4/24 at 2:53 am to
Yeah that whole pee sitting down thing negated your whole post. I was with until in and I agreed with most of it.
Posted by Tifway419
Member since Sep 2022
889 posts
Posted on 4/4/24 at 9:37 am to
If peeing sitting down makes you feel like less of a man, then you aren’t much of a man to begin with. Just my opinion
Posted by Ten Bears
Florida
Member since Oct 2018
3332 posts
Posted on 4/4/24 at 10:05 am to
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Remember this, sex eventually leads to children, therefore sex is very expensive emotionally and financially.


I would add another thought to your pre-wedding advice. Discuss how many kids you want before the wedding. And when you achieve that magical number, schedule a vasectomy the very next day and frick your brains out for the remainder of the marriage.

Sex is the glue of marriage. Many of my friends who are just existing in their marriages, the lack of sex is usually the number 1 cause of marital unhappiness. Yes, money and division of labor are important concerns, but if you're not fricking, what's the point? Yes, there are lulls in sexy time, but you have to punch through it, even if it seems mechanical or scheduled at times. 2 people wanting one another is the entire point of marriage.

It's like exercise. You never regret doing it.
Posted by Bunk Moreland
Member since Dec 2010
53933 posts
Posted on 4/4/24 at 10:06 am to
What if you're just not attracted to her anymore?
Posted by WG_Dawg
Hoover
Member since Jun 2004
86582 posts
Posted on 4/4/24 at 10:17 am to
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Observations on 50 years of married life


lots of good stuff in the OP, specifically to love them no matter what and foresake all others. Some is kinda out there, and some is totally ridiculous.

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Before the wedding, create a meal plan for the next week


Meh. This isn't necessary a "bad" thing to do just in general, but I'd hardly call it something that should be a priority prior to marriage

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forget about peeing standing up. Your aim is not that good




the hell is this? You sit down to pee?

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Decide early on how the visits to the in laws will be determined.


lol. Sounds great on paper, not so muchin practice many times. My wife is very, VERY close with her parents. I am 100% convinced that if I didn't mind that we would all (us and our 2 children) just move in with her parents. No doubt about it. If prior to our marriage I tried to tell her how frequently (or infrequently) we were going to go over there and visit she'd laugh out loud.

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As to drugs, are you really that stupid to keep on doing that stuff?




I don't smoke anymore but if someone in their 20s is getting ready for marriage who cares if they do? I'd hardly call that stupid.

Posted by Penrod
Member since Jan 2011
39927 posts
Posted on 4/4/24 at 10:37 am to
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In 20 years, chances are your wife will have turned out just like her mother physically and mentally.

This is ridiculous.

My wife has three daughters that are all very different, in appearance and in personality. Not one of them looks like my wife or has her personality. And my wife is not at all like her mom (thank goodness).
Posted by thecoconuttiger
Member since Mar 2024
185 posts
Posted on 4/4/24 at 11:34 am to
6 kids...

Your poor wife. The pain of child birth ain't fun. She must love you very much or you must be Lover Extraordinaire of the Universe and you had her under some lovers voodoo charm..

Just teasing you a bit. I think it is wonderful that you have such a beautiful love and that God blessed you both six times.
Posted by thecoconuttiger
Member since Mar 2024
185 posts
Posted on 4/4/24 at 11:38 am to
A strong pimp hand is why grit ball was invented.
Posted by AirbusDawg
Milton, Ga
Member since Jan 2018
2325 posts
Posted on 4/4/24 at 12:40 pm to
30 years this year for me. A pornhub subscription is a must.
Posted by White Bear
Yonnygo
Member since Jul 2014
14079 posts
Posted on 4/4/24 at 12:58 pm to
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Sex is the glue of marriage. Many of my friends who are just existing in their marriages, the lack of sex is usually the number 1 cause of marital unhappiness.
No shite bro.
This post was edited on 4/4/24 at 1:02 pm
Posted by Bard
Definitely NOT an admin
Member since Oct 2008
51877 posts
Posted on 4/4/24 at 1:02 pm to
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Some good stuff in there but you lost me here:
quote:

forget about peeing standing up



You're either not married or haven't been married for long.
Posted by HubbaBubba
F_uck Joe Biden, TX
Member since Oct 2010
45878 posts
Posted on 4/4/24 at 1:09 pm to
quote:

Translation, sex only with her and no others
We are celebrating our 25th anniversary this weekend. As I mature, so does my wife. Neither of us are shaped the same way as when we met 28 years ago. But there is nothing I can say to describe how absolutely beautiful she is to me, how we are so incredibly close as friends and even more as intimate partners. My wife is an expert at flirtatious foreplay and sure keeps me interested. We may not have the frequency of sex that we used to, but she makes sure that it's worth waiting for. (No details. Nobody likes to think about older couples having sex, anyway). Sure, I love the sight of women. Their curves are alluring, but I can truthfully say that I'm fortunate that all I really desire is to be with my wife. I'm certain any infidelity would kill the relationship we have, which is as good as I could ever have hoped.
Posted by AlwysATgr
Member since Apr 2008
16586 posts
Posted on 4/4/24 at 1:17 pm to
Congrats on 50 years friend. So much wise advice.

All I can add is learn to forgive and a good wife is someone who's willing to forgive you when she's wrong.

God bless.

Posted by makersmark1
earth
Member since Oct 2011
16034 posts
Posted on 4/4/24 at 1:17 pm to
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Speaking of bathrooms, forget about peeing standing up.


I lift the lid and leave it up in the hallway bathroom. If I sit down, it’s to crap.

Do many guys sit to pee?
Not judging, but I never really considered it.
Posted by Honkus
Member since Aug 2005
51865 posts
Posted on 4/4/24 at 1:22 pm to
AI TLDR-

quote:

Observations on 50 years of married life

• A user shares their observations and advice on marriage after 50 years of being married to the same woman.

• They emphasize the importance of financial management, communication, and division of household responsibilities.

• The user also highlights the significance of respecting each other and being mindful of one's words and actions to avoid conflicts.

• They discuss the challenges of raising children and the emotional and financial aspects of marriage.

• The user encourages couples to learn from their experiences and grow together throughout their married life.
Posted by HubbaBubba
F_uck Joe Biden, TX
Member since Oct 2010
45878 posts
Posted on 4/4/24 at 1:23 pm to
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a good wife is someone who's willing to forgive you when she's wrong.


So true. Quote worthy.
Posted by vodkacop
Louisiana
Member since Nov 2008
7868 posts
Posted on 4/5/24 at 2:35 pm to
lulz. No I'm just a man who likes to stand and piss. I've been doing it for 50 years I'm absolutely positive I've gotten it right. Now maybe some of are so short they must sit down but that's on them.
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