re: How do you reason with people that don't realize this is a self-own?

I sort of agree with her. A man is a man and a woman is a woman,

Put whatever you want on the outside. Doesn't change your genetic makeup.

1000 years from now if they dig up Bruce Jenner's body, they'll be able to tell he was a man. Was always a man. It's really not even controversial. The label will long since have melted away. Along with his balls.