re: Coworker of mine is getting a divorce

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I see your point but look at it from a modern American man's POV. You can still provide well, keep your emotions in check, and be there for the kids but the woman can pack up, take the kids, take 50% of your hard earned assets, put you on alimony and child support just because she temporarily lost her "fee fees."

Men are aware now. Gaslighting them to "keep the tradition" going isn't going to keep them falling for the trap. You either have to change the laws or change women's behavior.

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I agree there’s a problem with the laws, and I think the solution is to do away with no-fault divorce.

However, I think the whole “I was a good husband and she just left for no reason with half my stuff” narrative is very overblown. Even if you read divorce threads on the OT, this isn’t what most divorced guys are self-reporting.

IRL, usually both the husband and wife quit on the marriage months or even years before the divorce, then one (typically the woman) eventually calls it and files. Either because someone has an affair or someone simply gets tired of living in a corpse of a marriage. It’s pretty rare that a mentally well person will leave a good marriage and/or a good spouse, man or woman.