re: How hard is the jump from one child to two?

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Following. The Mrs. is ready for baby #2, I am not

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Here is the truth. You're never going to be "ready."

Even after we had our first we always knew we didn't want her to be an only child. The first is a trying experience because you simply don't fully know how to be a parent. So by the time you think you have the hang of it and your child is not 100% reliant on you for everything, you aren't entirely eager to start the process all over again...even if you know you eventually want a second child.

When my wife told me she was pregnant with #2 I wasn't excited. But I wasn't upset or angry either. It was almost a numb feeling, if that make sense, of "well, we haver to start the process all over again." The good news is that once reality sets in you jump back into the saddle of being a parent of a little baby as if you never stopped. Only this time you are less unsure and far more confident in what you are doing because you have done it before. In short, you become a better parent and I could not imagine life without my second child.

Also, truth No.2. If you're wife wants No. 2 you are having No. 2. You know why? Because you are weak. You can put up a strong front and think your are adamant it's not going to happen. But there's going to be a night, maybe after a few drinks, where that resolve melts. Or maybe early one morning while the kids are asleep. She knows she has something you want. You may as well accept it.