re: Wife is mad because I won't go to in laws twice in three weeks

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No, this is some of the problem. She has a very tight knit family, I don't.

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Well here is the issue. Yall don't view family in the same way. She views them as an integral part of her life that she will prioritize at all times. You view your family as nice people that you will see when its convenient. Not saying you are wrong for that stance but it is the root of the problem. I personally come from a background closer to your wife's. Luckily my wife comes from the same type of background so we don't fight over these issues. Family is important to us and we will prioritize it.

Again, I don't think its unreasonable to not want to go. But to play devil's advocate here, your wife has a close family where everyone will go to the functions with their spouse and kids and if she shows up alone then it makes her feel left out or on the outside. I'm sure she would also be self conscious about what the others think about your relationship when all their spouses happily made both trips but you bailed on her despite not having other plans. I am not saying that she SHOULD care what they think but part of being in a tight family is valuing their approval.

You started this thread to hear other guys tell you that She's crazy and you're normal. The answer that you're getting is that she may be a little crazy but there is zero chance you win. Its either go and she's happy or don't and she's not.

If it were me I'd go because there will be a time when you actually want to do something when she has a trip home planned and you will have already used up your get out of a trip card.