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The Pros And Cons Of A Guy Paying On A First Date
Posted on 6/20/16 at 2:42 pm
Posted on 6/20/16 at 2:42 pm
Since when has it been faux pas for a guy to pay on the first date? I get that if you're just friends thats one thing but on the first date? This is from a woman's perspective.
Have any of you baws been on a date where a woman insisted to pay on the first date? I have yet to see this myself but it seems as if its becoming more common.
Now I know there are women out there that use men as their meal plan but I think they are easy to spot for the most part.
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Have any of you baws been on a date where a woman insisted to pay on the first date? I have yet to see this myself but it seems as if its becoming more common.
Now I know there are women out there that use men as their meal plan but I think they are easy to spot for the most part.
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PROS:
Chivalry – Is not dead, I adore when a man treats me like the princess I am and takes me out on the town. Opening doors, being respectful, paying for dinner, compliments, the whole nine, I love it. It’s very much something I believe I was socialized to demand from men and therefore believe that if my date slips in this area, then he’s not actually interested in me as a person.
It’s a statement – It sets the tone for what is to come, the message is being sent “I want to get to know you and I want to treat you with respect, this is not just a hook up.”
Sex – I recently discovered that men pay for drinks and dinner in hopes to have sex. I know you think I am now either crazy or stupid but… you would be wrong. I just didn’t realize that was the fine print behind dinner until recently, oops. Well, it’s been working for centuries and many men are getting laid after they take their ladies out so why break the pattern now?
Tradition – It’s just the way its always been, there is something sexy and strong about tradition. It sets gender roles and history in their place and it is what our society is accustom too.
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CONS:
Sexist– It is 2016 so why the frick does the man need to pay for my dinner? Its a modern world and the only way we will ever progress is to break away from these silly gender roles
Financial– Its a burden, why should you have to cover the cost of all your first dates when you are constantly on dating apps and taking out new and different women? It’s too expensive to both live in a modern world and have to pay every time you take someone out.
Pressure– Now you have put pressure on the woman to return the favor in a different way with the implication of the payment for dinner. Do you really want to be that guy?
Potentially not feminist– I told you in my last article I need all my bros to be feminists too. I’m not sure where this act falls in the culture of feminism but I can almost guess its not very high on the totem pole.
Sex– If you don’t pay for dinner, does she really have to frick you? HAHA (just joking, but not really)
Tradition can be stupid- We need to constantly question every social norm and tradition that we practice. To live in a world without critical analysis is an ignorant world to live. But when you don’t pay, judgement will happen.
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This post was edited on 6/20/16 at 2:45 pm
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Posted on 6/20/16 at 2:45 pm to tke857
Pros - pussy
Cons - no pussy
Cons - no pussy
Posted on 6/20/16 at 2:46 pm to tke857
WTF?
Posted on 6/20/16 at 2:46 pm to tke857
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Financial– Its a burden, why should you have to cover the cost of all your first dates when you are constantly on dating apps and taking out new and different women? It’s too expensive to both live in a modern world and have to pay every time you take someone out
This is BS. If you want to date, paying for the date is the cost of doing business.
How much are you spending on the first date anyway? $30-$40? Not really that much. I guess if you're an O-T baller going out with 5 different women each week that can add up.
I'm not necessarily an old-fashioned person but this is one thing I believe in. Pay for the first date.
This post was edited on 6/20/16 at 2:50 pm
Posted on 6/20/16 at 2:47 pm to tke857
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Pressure– Now you have put pressure on the woman to return the favor in a different way with the implication of the payment for dinner. Do you really want to be that guy?
If a girl feels like she has to put out because a guy paid for their first date, then she needs to have some higher standards.
Posted on 6/20/16 at 2:48 pm to Goldrush25
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Pay for the first date.
Definitely the gentleman thing to do.
Posted on 6/20/16 at 2:48 pm to Goldrush25
Ya, always pay the first date.
Other old fashioned things that may not work anymore, calling on the phone.
Yes, it shows you aren't a pussy but apparently we've moved beyond that.
Other old fashioned things that may not work anymore, calling on the phone.
Yes, it shows you aren't a pussy but apparently we've moved beyond that.
Posted on 6/20/16 at 2:50 pm to Goldrush25
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How much are you spending on the first date anyway? $30-$40?
Not all of us take our dates to McDonalds, brah
Posted on 6/20/16 at 2:50 pm to Goldrush25
thats what im saying. if youre dating you should just assume your paying for dinner and drinks after. I think a good rule is budget a hundo and maybe more if yall really hit things off. its a given that you should pay regardless. just seems like some women these days might take offense to this? i just dont understand this.
This post was edited on 6/20/16 at 2:52 pm
Posted on 6/20/16 at 2:51 pm to tke857
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The Pros And Cons Of A Guy Paying On A First Date
Who cares. I always offer to pay for my dinner. If he wants to pay, then I say "thank you." If we go out after, I offer to buy the first round of drinks, movie tickets, whatever. Whether or not I sleep with someone is not determined by whether or not he buys dinner.
Posted on 6/20/16 at 2:52 pm to tke857
I always pay. This is a bad thing now? 
I'm owed a lot of sex then. I'm supposed to be getting laid after every meal I pay for?? Shiiit. Get my accountant on the phone. We have some numbers to crunch.
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Sex – I recently discovered that men pay for drinks and dinner in hopes to have sex.
I'm owed a lot of sex then. I'm supposed to be getting laid after every meal I pay for?? Shiiit. Get my accountant on the phone. We have some numbers to crunch.
This post was edited on 6/20/16 at 2:55 pm
Posted on 6/20/16 at 2:53 pm to NoHoTiger
: deselects NoHo from the list
Posted on 6/20/16 at 2:54 pm to NoHoTiger
quote:so the take away is to let her pay for everything if she decides to throw it on you
Whether or not I sleep with someone is not determined by whether or not he buys dinner.
Posted on 6/20/16 at 2:54 pm to NoHoTiger
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Who cares. I always offer to pay for my dinner. If he wants to pay, then I say "thank you." If we go out after, I offer to buy the first round of drinks, movie tickets, whatever. Whether or not I sleep with someone is not determined by whether or not he buys dinner.
Ok well yeah I've encountered this. Where the woman will offer to pay for her own dinner. However, deep down I know they fully expect the man to offer to pay for it. Right? The offer is nice though. One day for shits n giggles I may just just say ok you can pay for your dinner. See what happens.
This post was edited on 6/20/16 at 2:56 pm
Posted on 6/20/16 at 2:54 pm to tke857
Pay for dinner. Then tell her you're eating her for dessert. 60% of the time, it works every time. 
Posted on 6/20/16 at 2:55 pm to NoHoTiger
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Whether or not I sleep with someone is not determined by whether or not he buys dinner
Then what does, yo?
Posted on 6/20/16 at 2:55 pm to tke857
In a perfect world, this girl would write this and get zero clicks or comments. She would obsessively check it trying to find out why nobody is reading it which will ultimately lead to her suicide.
Posted on 6/20/16 at 2:58 pm to tke857
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Sexist– It is 2016 so why the frick does the man need to pay for my dinner? Its a modern world and the only way we will ever progress is to break away from these silly gender roles
I'm not gonna date a woman with this kind of an attitude in the first place.
This post was edited on 6/20/16 at 3:05 pm
Posted on 6/20/16 at 3:01 pm to tke857
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I recently discovered that men pay for drinks and dinner in hopes to have sex. I
Well, uh...derp.
We ask you out in the first place in the hopes of getting laid at some point. It's called dating.
Posted on 6/20/16 at 3:02 pm to tke857
quote:I didn't realize this was even debatable
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