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re: Why do people always blame the victim when things happen?
Posted on 5/17/24 at 10:41 am to RogerTheShrubber
Posted on 5/17/24 at 10:41 am to RogerTheShrubber
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She's a grown up.
And?
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Posted on 5/17/24 at 10:43 am to cbree88
Dear Facebook…
Posted on 5/17/24 at 10:44 am to dcrews
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wouldn't her sister in laws be your sisters?
No. They’re married to my wife’s brothers.
Posted on 5/17/24 at 10:45 am to cbree88
Because it is usually the victims fault something bad happened to then. It's a very rare event when the victim doesn't carry at least half the blame.
Posted on 5/17/24 at 10:47 am to Barstools
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Because it is usually the victims fault something bad happened to then. It's a very rare event when the victim doesn't carry at least half the blame.
My wife did nothing to merit this. She simply answered a question that her brother asked her honestly without lying. It turns out that my wife was exactly right.
Posted on 5/17/24 at 10:48 am to cbree88
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No. They’re not admitting it but that’s when all of this shite started and they started treating my wife badly, We put 2 and 2 together.
One of the SILs admitted what she did and ratted out the other one. The one who married my wife’s twin brother is admitting that she was in the car but denying that she was a part of this. She says she didn’t know the cat was in the car and that it was all the other SIL’s doing, which is a bullshite lie because that cat meowed loudly constantly anytime she was in a car.
They are sick. I would not be around them unless it was absolutely necessary and I would keep my distance if I HAD to be present for something.
I find it difficult to believe the mother and the brother are supporting the SILs.
That's sick also.
Posted on 5/17/24 at 10:53 am to cbree88
They should have been charged with cruelty to animals at the time they did it. Letting the cat out in a field would qualify as that crime.
If family is shitty, write them off and put them on ignore. Don't keep fighting. You'll find peace by just pretending they don't exist. No drama. No "I'm not talking to you." No discussions.
"Are you coming for Thanksgiving?" "No, thank you." End of discussion.
I spent 20 years ignoring the existence of my older sister, who was giving me grief and stressing me out. Smart move, and I have no regrets doing it. We get along today, somewhat.
Writing off shitty family members, if someone can do it, can be a useful tool.
If family is shitty, write them off and put them on ignore. Don't keep fighting. You'll find peace by just pretending they don't exist. No drama. No "I'm not talking to you." No discussions.
"Are you coming for Thanksgiving?" "No, thank you." End of discussion.
I spent 20 years ignoring the existence of my older sister, who was giving me grief and stressing me out. Smart move, and I have no regrets doing it. We get along today, somewhat.
Writing off shitty family members, if someone can do it, can be a useful tool.
This post was edited on 5/17/24 at 11:22 am
Posted on 5/17/24 at 10:54 am to cbree88
ok first off
why are you not confronting the SIL and your wife's brother? sorry but you need to brush up on your fighting skills because you need to confront all of them in front of the whole family
1) tell the SILs that they are both psychopathic bitches and turn to the husbands and tell them they are cuck little bitches for thinking its ok and then tell the father he is a pussy for allowing someone to harm his daughter and not sticking up for her
2) if BIL says shite, slap the ever living frick out of him. dare her father to say somethign
3) tell her mom, she is a terrible mother for not sticking up for her only daughter
sorry but the whole family needs to be told to frick off to their faces and someone needs to catch hands, might be you that takes the arse whooping, but who cares...i would never ever ever let something like this go without them knowing how i really felt.
like it is baffling to me you have not beat the frick out of the brothers yet
and i would never under any circumstances allow my kids to be around people that think this kind of behavior is ok. enabling is just saying...its ok so screw the grandparents too
look my real mom is a pill head. has been my whole life and abandoned the family when i was just starting middle school. that is psychotic behavior...so i only allow my kids to see her at christmas. only time i see her and its just so i can see the rest of that side of the family.
you need to cut off all ties once you let them know how you feel face to face. and beat the frick out of the BIL and show some balls please. at least slap the dog shite out of him.
why are you not confronting the SIL and your wife's brother? sorry but you need to brush up on your fighting skills because you need to confront all of them in front of the whole family
1) tell the SILs that they are both psychopathic bitches and turn to the husbands and tell them they are cuck little bitches for thinking its ok and then tell the father he is a pussy for allowing someone to harm his daughter and not sticking up for her
2) if BIL says shite, slap the ever living frick out of him. dare her father to say somethign
3) tell her mom, she is a terrible mother for not sticking up for her only daughter
sorry but the whole family needs to be told to frick off to their faces and someone needs to catch hands, might be you that takes the arse whooping, but who cares...i would never ever ever let something like this go without them knowing how i really felt.
like it is baffling to me you have not beat the frick out of the brothers yet
and i would never under any circumstances allow my kids to be around people that think this kind of behavior is ok. enabling is just saying...its ok so screw the grandparents too
look my real mom is a pill head. has been my whole life and abandoned the family when i was just starting middle school. that is psychotic behavior...so i only allow my kids to see her at christmas. only time i see her and its just so i can see the rest of that side of the family.
you need to cut off all ties once you let them know how you feel face to face. and beat the frick out of the BIL and show some balls please. at least slap the dog shite out of him.
Posted on 5/17/24 at 10:55 am to cbree88
Your wife needs to tell her twin brother to pay your wife $10k in reparation and all will be forgotten. Otherwise, whole family can pound sand.
Posted on 5/17/24 at 11:01 am to cbree88
WTF kind of family did you marry into? Seriously, the only way you will have a peaceful life is to put as much physical and emotional distance as possible between your family (you and your wife) and them.
Posted on 5/17/24 at 11:02 am to cbree88
Go and raise hell with the sisters in law. Eventually they will be glad if you dont come back. Then you win,
Posted on 5/17/24 at 11:05 am to lsu777
I don't promote any violence, but I do think the OP should be sticking up for his wife in a big way and having a come to Jesus chat with the family, explaining the damage that has been done and the continuing damage which will come from the actions of the SILs. The dynamic duo has destroyed the family with an action that cannot be undone. Anyone supporting them or suggesting the wife get over it and forgive and forget is subject to no relationship with the couple or future children.
Posted on 5/17/24 at 11:06 am to lsu777
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you need to cut off all ties once you let them know how you feel face to face. and beat the frick out of the BIL and show some balls please.
Sometimes being an adult means being emotionally intelligent and knowing when to get in a physical confrontation with someone or when it’s best to handle something in a different way. You have to have mastery of your emotions. Most people fail at this miserably, unfortunately. What my SILs did is an example of that.
If someone attacks your wife or kids in front of you, you jump in and beat the shite out of them and put that to a stop.
In this scenario, if I go attack these people a year after the cat died, they’re going to all jump in and gang up on me. There’s like 8 of them so I won’t stand a chance. Furthermore, they’ll have me arrested for assault and battery if I do this, and I’ll be the one going to jail and losing my job.
I can’t afford to go to jail and lose my job right now. I have a wife and a child on the way relying on me for financial support. I can go around like an immature, emotionally unstable young buck with nothing to lose.
This post was edited on 5/17/24 at 11:10 am
Posted on 5/17/24 at 11:07 am to cbree88
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Last year my wife’s cat that she had for 15 years went missing mysteriously while she was still living at her mom’s house. She cried her eyes out for days. Well, recently we found out that it was actually a couple of her sisters-in-law who kidnapped the cat from her mom’s house and killed her.
Damn. Wish I hadn't opened this thread.
Posted on 5/17/24 at 11:09 am to cbree88
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The irony of it is the girl ended up showing her true colors by killing my wife’s pet.
you have no evidence of a "killing" past the kidnapping.
Posted on 5/17/24 at 11:10 am to cbree88
It may be time to find a new job far away from them all.
Posted on 5/17/24 at 11:11 am to Chad504boy
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you have no evidence of a "killing" past the kidnapping.
That doesn’t make any difference. Kidnapping the cat and making it disappear is equal to killing her. She was 15 years old with arthritis.
Posted on 5/17/24 at 11:11 am to cbree88
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That doesn’t make any difference.
it makes a huge difference you keep on going on and on with the "killing" of a cat.
Posted on 5/17/24 at 11:15 am to Captain Rumbeard
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Did her mom ask them to have it put down or something?
It was a 15 year old cat. I’m guessing it was time and SIL did this to help out the mom.
Posted on 5/17/24 at 11:16 am to Chad504boy
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it makes a huge difference you keep on going on and on with the "killing" of a cat
One SIL says they let her go in a field. She’s was 15 years old with arthritis.
The other says the other one threw her out of a window going 60 miles per hour.
If we had written evidence or a recorded audio, they could be charged with a serious crime.
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