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re: Starting Over After Divorce
Posted on 2/20/24 at 9:30 pm to Mizzoufan26
Posted on 2/20/24 at 9:30 pm to Mizzoufan26
I am in the same boat.
But at 49 with 2 younger kids.
I am never wanting to speak with the ex wife again but now somehow need to co parent for the next decade.
This will be a challenge as I need space from her and bare minimum contact.
No cheating involved but it's a financial arse raping and she attempted to take the kids away from me. She has been a complete a-hole in the process.
But at 49 with 2 younger kids.
I am never wanting to speak with the ex wife again but now somehow need to co parent for the next decade.
This will be a challenge as I need space from her and bare minimum contact.
No cheating involved but it's a financial arse raping and she attempted to take the kids away from me. She has been a complete a-hole in the process.
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Posted on 2/20/24 at 10:24 pm to Nelson Biederman IV
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How did you get back out there?
Escorts.
Posted on 2/20/24 at 10:28 pm to Nelson Biederman IV
I was about your age when my ex and I split.
I’d like to recommend finding a school teacher with daddy issues. It worked great for me.
I’d like to recommend finding a school teacher with daddy issues. It worked great for me.
Posted on 2/20/24 at 10:37 pm to Nelson Biederman IV
Well that’s pretty scary.
Posted on 2/20/24 at 11:25 pm to Nelson Biederman IV
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I have a 7 month old son.
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I’m 36
Brother, I went through a divorce a few years ago and I had twin 3 year olds at the time. As a 36 year old, time is on your side and you need to be EXTREMELY selective this time. I divorced at 47 and thought I would die alone, which was more acceptable than living with that lying witch another year. I took two years and focused on being the best dad I could be, while working out like a maniac. This year, after running thru several dating apps and sowing oats, I met a fantastic woman who is absolutely amazing. It takes time for things to come into focus but do NOT get attached too soon.
Posted on 2/21/24 at 12:01 am to Nelson Biederman IV
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7 month old son
this dude should be your first and only priority at this point.
he should see you every day.
you should not be starting a family again unless you want your son to hate you.
you are not old.
Posted on 2/21/24 at 12:06 am to GeorgeTheGreek
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Kids are resilient. He’ll be fine.
oh yeah... i guess that's why 20% of kids now identify as non-binary and are committing suicide at the highest rates in recorded history, are medicated and depressed. sure, keep telling yourself that lie.
Posted on 2/21/24 at 4:36 am to Nelson Biederman IV
Have you thought about a DNA test?
Posted on 2/21/24 at 4:49 am to Nelson Biederman IV
As has been said over and over. You're not old, you'll get through this, you'll find someone else who will be better for you and your needs. Your son will be just fine
Posted on 2/21/24 at 10:56 am to GentleJackJones
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Nelson said something along the lines of it being “dangerous.” I’m not sure if he meant her, him, or the two of them together.
It was meant as dangerous for me. There won’t be much civility unless she is forced to deal with her issues. She has tried to ruin me, take my son, and set me up in the most conniving ways possible but she’s so far gone that she doesn’t realize that all she’s done is damage her credibility. She honestly thinks that she can just take him and get rid of me. I was willing to keep trying indefinitely. She just took it too far. I was completely fine with never being “happy” for the sake of my son and him having an intact family.
As for the paternity stuff, this is one of those cases where it’s not needed. There is absolutely no denying it. It’s kinda freaky how much he looks like me.
Posted on 2/21/24 at 3:39 pm to Nelson Biederman IV
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It was meant as dangerous for me. There won’t be much civility unless she is forced to deal with her issues. She has tried to ruin me, take my son, and set me up in the most conniving ways possible but she’s so far gone that she doesn’t realize that all she’s done is damage her credibility. She honestly thinks that she can just take him and get rid of me. I was willing to keep trying indefinitely. She just took it too far. I was completely fine with never being “happy” for the sake of my son and him having an intact family.
I'm getting Gone Girl vibes.
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As for the paternity stuff, this is one of those cases where it’s not needed. There is absolutely no denying it. It’s kinda freaky how much he looks like me.
He's 7 months old ... I would look into it and get it checked out just for peace of mind.
Posted on 2/21/24 at 5:00 pm to GentleJackJones
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I'm getting Gone Girl vibes.
At this point I wouldn’t put anything past her. That said, I don’t need any peace of mind with the paternity stuff.
Posted on 2/21/24 at 5:11 pm to Nelson Biederman IV
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I don’t need any peace of mind with the paternity stuff.
Why's that?
Posted on 2/21/24 at 5:31 pm to WinnaSez
quote:He's 7 months old. He won't know any different. Splitting every other weekend between mom and dad.
Shouldn’t you be more worried about how your divorce impacts his life???
Like another poster said...make him your focus right now. Wouldn't even worry about the dating scene until you get into a routine. You'll have every other weekend for going out on a dinner date or even a weeknight here and there. You need time to adjust, get comfortable with yourself, being on your own and being a divorced dad.
And you're only 40, you're not dead. I'm in my early 50's and single, divorced for a long time, kids are grown. I don't date very much, it's rare, and I do a bunch of things on my own.
I know it's easier said than done but, do your own thing and don't dwell on it. Broaden your hobbies.
Posted on 2/21/24 at 5:32 pm to Harlan County USA
Its like when people are scared to gonto the doctor, even if they are sick.
Posted on 2/21/24 at 5:44 pm to Nelson Biederman IV
When your divorce is final, focus on you and your child. Don't worry about dating or suddenly becoming this social butterfly because that's only going to make things worst.
Let things settle down for six months or a year because you have to become comfortable with yourself being single and that takes time. You're not that 20-something year old man anymore.
Work on yourself and focus on really building a true relationship with the Good Lord. I know, for me, I wouldn't have made it, if it wasn't for my relationship with God. Good luck, brother! Praying for you!
Let things settle down for six months or a year because you have to become comfortable with yourself being single and that takes time. You're not that 20-something year old man anymore.
Work on yourself and focus on really building a true relationship with the Good Lord. I know, for me, I wouldn't have made it, if it wasn't for my relationship with God. Good luck, brother! Praying for you!
Posted on 2/21/24 at 5:56 pm to Nelson Biederman IV
Ain’t reading 10 pages but I met the love of my life at 40. We are in our early 60’s now. I wasn’t expecting it either. Get through the divorce and you will be fine
Posted on 2/21/24 at 5:57 pm to Harlan County USA
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Why's that?
The guy is being pretty candid about his disdain for his wife. If he’s saying she didn’t cheat on him, why is everyone so hesitant to believe him?
Posted on 2/21/24 at 5:58 pm to Gideon Swashbuckler
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Escorts
Posted on 2/21/24 at 5:58 pm to crazyatthecamp
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49 with 2 younger kids
That's me when it happened. Bare minimum contact is doable, and the eventual little to none is so nice. Though mine didn't try to take the kids. I'm the better parent, and they would have hated her for it.
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