re: My wife and I had an abortion. AMA

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You need to accept that this was 100% your decision and your consequence

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We do. We tried therapy afterwards but neither of us found it very helpful.

Ultimately, we feel bad about our decision and the entire situation, but do not regret our decision.

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That’s literally a cop out.

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Easy for you to say standing in the sidelines not having to deal with the emotional trauma as well as the crippling medical debt caring for a child that doctors are saying stands no chance. I know a family that held onto hope too long and their child suffered for it and was not long for the world.

If you truly think his situation is a cop-out, sign up to be a foster parent and put your money where your mouth is. Give some kids a real fighting chance beyond birth.

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Its a question of is it constitutional

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Let’s talk about the constitution. Fetuses and unborn children are not mentioned either. At the time of the founders fetuses had no rights whatsoever.

Where does the idea come that unborn have rights? It certainly isn’t in our constitution or founding documents.

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ou only speak for yourself clown. You think a 15-week ban is "nuts" because youre an ignorant fool that doesn't even know what abortion laws are like across the world.

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Your one response ahead of yourself slick. Slow down.

I’m conflicted because I can wrap my head around your line of thinking and it’s certainly apparent that this wasn’t a “I got pregnant and don’t wanna deal with a kid” situation. On the other hand I think about my wife, who was born a few months premature and doctors told my FiL during delivery to either pick his wife or the baby because one or both of them wouldn’t make it. He couldn’t answer. So my wife was born at 2 pounds, not much bigger than an ink pin, and spent months in the NICU where my in laws were told she would likely not live and even if she did, she would likely be disabled physically as well as mentally handicapped. Fast forward to today and my wife is nearly 30 with a great career as a leader in her company, physically fit and active in her gym and in Jiu jitsu, active in mentorship of young girls in our community and is an absolute light in my life. And if her dad would’ve listened to the docs, none of that would’ve happened.

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The 3 year old has an idea when the mom is at 22 weeks that they are supposed to become an older sibling. All of

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My brother went through all 3 of the babies being born deceased and grew into a great big brother then father now a grandfather.

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Have you and the wife had a discussion and come to a decision to tell your daughter that she was going to be a sister when she is age appropriate?

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Not yet. I think it is something we are going to have to talk to our children about (we have since had another child) when they start their family planning as this heart defect is likely a genetic deformity and something they need to be aware of.

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Do you believe the government as an inherent interest in protecting life?

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I believe there are a multitude of rights that are fundamental but are not explicitly mentioned in the constitution. Our constitution with its very short bill of rights was never intended to be an exclusive and complete list of fundamental rights. The cop out of this court is the premise that if a right isn’t listed it does not exist.

It is a matter of objective truth that neither the constitution nor the law at the time of the drafting of the constitution granted personhood to the unborn.

You can’t have it both ways. Either the full scope of human rights is fluid or it isn’t. If we are locked to the constitution, no, the unborn have no right to life.