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re: Are 'Thank You' notes no longer something you're expected to send..

Posted on 11/14/23 at 4:48 pm to
Posted by justjoe906
Member since Oct 2013
1374 posts
Posted on 11/14/23 at 4:48 pm to
I think it's a good idea to send thank you notes. If nothing else it lets the person that gave the gift especially at the wedding know you did receive it.
Posted by Obtuse1
Westside Bodymore Yo
Member since Sep 2016
25843 posts
Posted on 11/14/23 at 4:50 pm to
We have continued to get them so at least some people are continuing to send them.

Most people think I am a little nuts because I send a handwritten thank you for even the small gifts I receive, even Christmas gifts from close family. I even write my wife thank you notes for gifts she gives me.
Posted by Bayou_Tiger_225
Third Earth
Member since Mar 2016
10563 posts
Posted on 11/14/23 at 4:50 pm to
quote:

The last two weddings I've been to I gave gifts and cash to each and spent over $500 each time without receiving a thank you card.
I got married a couple years ago, but if you want to send me a $500 wedding gift I’ll write you an entire thank you short story
Posted by BabyTac
Austin, TX
Member since Jun 2008
12273 posts
Posted on 11/14/23 at 4:51 pm to
Just text a ‘TY’. - work from home era.
Posted by TulaneLSU
Member since Aug 2003
Member since Dec 2007
13298 posts
Posted on 11/14/23 at 4:53 pm to
Friend,

Thank you letters should be a joyful expression of gratitude that connects you with another in a way that a spoken or typed word never can. They should not be used only for physical gifts like birthday or wedding gifts. Whenever a person enters my mind and I gave thanks to God for him or her, I immediately go to my writing desk to write a letter of thanks to the person.

I cannot recall the last day I did not write a thank you letter to someone. Most days I write several. Today I wrote a thank you card to a friend I have not see in many years simply because a picture of him eating at Uncle’s 2013 lobster steam fell out of a photo album I was moving.

Expressions of gratitude, especially in written form, are good for the writer and the recipient. So many problems would be fixed and chasms overcome if we became more grateful and showed it through action each day.

Yours,
TulaneLSU
Posted by Antonio Moss
Baton Rouge
Member since Mar 2006
48329 posts
Posted on 11/14/23 at 4:56 pm to
quote:

I don’t care if I get a thank you note. Actually I’d rather not get one so the person sending it isn’t wasting money on stationary and postage thats going into the trash anyway


+1

I cannot care less if someone sends me a thank you card. The fact that it’s expected kind of defeats the entire purpose of showing gratitude.
Posted by jmarto1
Houma, LA/ Las Vegas, NV
Member since Mar 2008
34054 posts
Posted on 11/14/23 at 4:56 pm to
Don't send me one but tell me directly. A little bit of time and a savings of money
Posted by jizzle6609
Houston
Member since Jul 2009
4291 posts
Posted on 11/14/23 at 4:56 pm to
quote:

I think it's a good idea to send thank you notes. If nothing else it lets the person that gave the gift especially at the wedding know you did receive it.


A short thank you is always appreciated.

Think about it, in everyone's own world their time is the most valuable, so when I get note someone has handwritten to me, I look at it as kind of special. I even save them now.

Posted by Antonio Moss
Baton Rouge
Member since Mar 2006
48329 posts
Posted on 11/14/23 at 4:57 pm to
quote:

Those idiots cant even write in cursive


And they don’t do math on an abacus!
Posted by chinhoyang
Member since Jun 2011
23629 posts
Posted on 11/14/23 at 4:58 pm to
quote:

although tbh it doesn't bother me whether they send them or not.


though it is nice to know that they were received
Posted by jizzle6609
Houston
Member since Jul 2009
4291 posts
Posted on 11/14/23 at 4:58 pm to
quote:

Friend,

Thank you letters should be a joyful expression of gratitude that connects you with another in a way that a spoken or typed word never can. They should not be used only for physical gifts like birthday or wedding gifts. Whenever a person enters my mind and I gave thanks to God for him or her, I immediately go to my writing desk to write a letter of thanks to the person.

I cannot recall the last day I did not write a thank you letter to someone. Most days I write several. Today I wrote a thank you card to a friend I have not see in many years simply because a picture of him eating at Uncle’s 2013 lobster steam fell out of a photo album I was moving.

Expressions of gratitude, especially in written form, are good for the writer and the recipient. So many problems would be fixed and chasms overcome if we became more grateful and showed it through action each day.

Yours,
TulaneLSU


2nd this entire post.

Well said.
Posted by FLTech
the A
Member since Sep 2017
12696 posts
Posted on 11/14/23 at 4:58 pm to
Everybody just expects things these days
Posted by notiger1997
Metairie
Member since May 2009
58261 posts
Posted on 11/14/23 at 5:00 pm to
quote:

Most people think I am a little nuts because I send a handwritten thank you for even the small gifts


Nothing wrong with that.
People def remember your kindness for taking the time to do it.
Several years ago I had a manager from another division of our company travel with me to show me some vendor shops and help introduce me to folks.
I sent him a thank you card and that old guy must have really appreciated that because he talked me up to people all the time and eventually helped me get a promotion.

Had some friends of friends come hang out with us at our Mardi Gras spot one year. The wife mailed us a thank you note. They are now welcome anytime for parades and have become friends
Posted by danilo
Member since Nov 2008
20253 posts
Posted on 11/14/23 at 5:05 pm to
quote:

I don’t care if I get a thank you note. Actually I’d rather not get one so the person sending it isn’t wasting money on stationary and postage thats going into the trash anyway

For a wedding like OP describes the person sending the notes are in more of a factory worker mentality to try to get them out because “that’s what you are supposed to do”.
Posted by Jim Rockford
Member since May 2011
98329 posts
Posted on 11/14/23 at 5:10 pm to
The last graduation check I sent to a relative, I didn't get a thank you note. I don't send checks any more.
Posted by greenbean
USAF Retired
Member since Feb 2019
4658 posts
Posted on 11/14/23 at 5:14 pm to
When parents let kids stop saying yes sir and yes ma'am, society started downhill.
Posted by Tridentds
Sugar Land
Member since Aug 2011
20494 posts
Posted on 11/14/23 at 5:14 pm to
I will tell you my partners daughter got married a few years back. She is conceited like her mother.

We gave them $750 cash. We received a copy of thank you note she scribbled out. Non-specific, just a general thank you note that she obviously made copies of and sent out to everyone.

If you are going to do a thank you note, then do one. If you aren't then don't. A half assed attempt is actually rather insulting. Would have been better for them to not send out thank you notes.

That's my opinion and stay the frick off my lawn.
Posted by LCA131
Home of the Fake Sig lines
Member since Feb 2008
72615 posts
Posted on 11/14/23 at 5:17 pm to
What did your 'partner' think of it?

You should have framed it and hung it on the wall.
Posted by Chief Hinge
There and Here
Member since Sep 2018
2918 posts
Posted on 11/14/23 at 5:19 pm to
I don’t give gifts with any expectations.
Posted by Death Before Disco
Member since Dec 2009
6190 posts
Posted on 11/14/23 at 5:23 pm to
I don’t give gifts to people in the expectation of receiving a thank you note for it. I’m give gifts to people I like and I hope they enjoy them.
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