re: The female happiness paradox

We’ve got an absolute shining star of an example on here

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women are either miserable but happy or happy but miserable

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Women can’t make up their mind. News at 10

Women joining the workforce had a negative impact to our country and I think it is directly related to a lot of the problems we are seeing today. For the record, I'm not being a sexist a-hole here. This is a logical observation.

The main flaw of women joining the workforce is this: Women didn't start marrying men who made less money than them. And for the system to kind of work, that is important. So what did this do? Well, it exacerbated the wealth gap between middle and lower class. And, set the precedent that a duel income household is now the standard for living comfortably. This was a terrible double whammy for the American family. I'm not saying that women need to get back in the kitchen, I'm saying that one adult needs to be able to provide for the family while the other stays home and tends to the household and children. It's too difficult to raise a family with both parents working.

This is an observation on equilibrium and every action has a reaction. The free market corrects itself, if there's the ability for people to work more and make more money, people will do it. Problem is, the good job pool didn't double while the employee pool did. There has also been a push for hiring minorities, who let's face it were not allowed to be in the job pool before either. So now we have well over twice as many people fighting over the same amount of desirable jobs.

The wealth gap is probably the largest cause of unhappiness in America today, and now the stage has been set for it exponentially widen.

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You must know a lot of gays to be able to break them into categories.

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Welcome to Atlanta

American women seem to have trouble finding contentment, no matter what.

I think Passport bros have figured out the cheat code

I heard a saying a while back and it really made me think and relates to most things you see happening in society today.

“If you give a man a good paying job, he starts a family. If you give a woman a good paying job, you price her out of a family”

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“If you give a man a good paying job, he starts a family. If you give a woman a good paying job, you price her out of a family”

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I'm sure there are studies that confirm this. Even a well-paid woman seeks out a man to "provide" for her. Feminism teaches entitlement, not responsibility which is why women have become entitled with power yet refuse to accept the responsibilities of their new roles.


The Jaffe memo is real IMO.

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True but I think it ties in with feminism in our society. Telling them what they should and shouldn’t want . So they’re very confused about what will make them happy and are often looking outward for something to make them happy(career, looks, husband, kids,etc) and that never works so they get frustrated at these things that aren’t bringing them the happiness they expect it to.

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There's disconnect between popular culture values and what women historically, across thousands of years of human societies, have always wanted and got which includes their biological realities.


Why now have we decided women should ignore all biological realities? Why in this time period?

Of course it confuses women because women are great at reinforcing societal norms. They can't square the current societal norms with reality and it drives them mad.

Women are receiving the absolute worst advice on how to achieve happiness. The entire culture is set up to give women advice that is contrary to her nature. It would be as counter productive as telling men to be soft and femininized. Oh wait....

The Trad Wife movement has this exactly correct. To be happy a woman needs emotional security. She needs this even more than financial security. This is where men come in. A happy hetero woman will be naturally submissive.

This is the great secret that a "Trad wife" understands. If she submits in a peaceful and feminine manner to a man, it will activate a man's desire to offer the emotional security she craves. In her peaceful submission, she creates intensity and attraction, and the man shifts from his own needs and desires to ensuring that her emotional needs are met as an expression of his masculinity. This makes the man feel ALIVE, the protector, the provider, the man he wants to be. And it all starts with a gift she offers, which is her loving submission. The ironic beauty of the entire thing being that they both get exactly what they need and what makes them happy. Through her feminine vulnerability, she captures his heart and prompts him to be the assertive and masculine man of integrity she desires. They are now an unbreakable team, and not adversaries under the same roof.

So, to recap; women who want happiness will submit, prompting men to focus on providing the emotional security to said woman, and everyone ends up stronger and happier.

Although this concept endlessly annoys modern women in America, I'd love to hear if any women agree.

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So, to recap; women who want happiness will submit, prompting men to focus on providing the emotional security to said woman, and everyone ends up stronger and happier.

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You explained this so well. As I've said on here before, progressive feminism has wrecked the modern family. The "we don't need men" mentality has created a world where marriage is disposable if it's not "fun" anymore, and children are just accessories. This idea emasculates men and strips them of their greatest roles, which are to protect and provide for the family.

Women are raised with the notion that any job whatsoever is better than staying at home with their babies. What's ironic is that SOME woman is raising their kids, just by way of day care and after care in school.

I don't exactly blame them, because our society pushes this so hard. We don't know what to think sometimes! When I was working full time, I was riddled with GUILT that I wasn't being a good enough mom. When I went back into full-time mom mode, I felt guilty that I wasn't supplementing our income or would be looked down upon by working women.

I have both a B.A. and M.A. from LSU, and I'm very employable if I ever need to go back to work. But for right now, the greatest honor in my life is serving my husband and children. And I can assure anyone who asks, every minute of his day is to serve and protect us.

First-wave feminism has turned into plain man-hating, which is very sad. The term "misogyny" needs to die, yesterday. Men are not women.